How to Plan Her Quinceañera Without Becoming an Overbearing Latina Mom
In Disney and Pixar’s new movie, Turning Red, we follow the story of Mei Lee, a 13-year-old girl who struggles with all the changes adolescence brings and how it affects her relationship with her overprotective mom, Ming.
Planning a quinceañera can be stressful as families have to plan about every last detail, from music to decorations and of course the dress. Just like Ming in the movie, Latina moms can become a little too involved and end up overshadowing the birthday girl on her big day or accidentally adding more stress without realizing it. To help you avoid this, here are some tips on how to plan your daughter’s Quinceañera without becoming an overbearing mom.
Listen to what your daughter wants but always set expectations
Let her have something to represent whatever she is obsessed with at the time of planning, be it a band, a color, a style of dress… Just like Mei Lee with the boy band, 4*Town, all quinceañeras have their favorites.
Take the time to have a mood check-in with your quinceanera to-be
Quince planning can unleash a wave of emotions. Make it a priority to check in with your daughter’s feelings throughout the process. Letting emotions bubble up for too long can ‘poof’ anyone into a giant red panda. Checking in with a teen-to-be can be as simple as taking deep breaths and asking questions. You can start by asking your teen about how they’re feeling at the moment.
Make sure the party reflects her tastes and true personality, rather than yours
Ming and Mei Lee struggle within the movie. When your daughter is growing up they can be so shaped by your expectations. Although, watching them branch out into their personality can be hard to handle as you feel their personality is shifting. It’s important to be supportive as your daughter finds her sense of identity apart from what you’ve instilled in her.
Mother-daughter relationships can be difficult as your child enters her teen years and transforms into a new empowered version of herself. Although, with good communication, patience, and understanding, you’ll be able to forge a new and improved relationship seamlessly.
See how Mei Lee and her mom, Ming, navigate this tricky time as Mei Lee transforms in Turning Red streaming on Disney+ on March 11.