Self esteem: Believe in Yourself in 5 Steps

Quince Madrina

In this edition we welcome María Marín. This distinguished motivator will  share her secrets to develop your self-esteem, become motivated to succeed, and focus on  achieving anything you set your mind to.

When I was in the fifth grade, my English teacher suggested that I enter a Spelling Bee contest in the United States. I said, “I can’t participate because I don’t really speak English.” She answered defiantly, “You’re not going to speak, you’re going to spell. You just have to believe in yourself! Confused, I thought to myself, believe in what?

My experience in personal development has taught me that a phrase such as “believe in yourself” is not only hard to comprehend by a 10 year-old girl, but also hard to assimilate by a 40 year-old woman.

I have met many women who are looking to find happiness, and when I tell them “You just have to believe in yourself,” they become perplexed and ask, “Believe in myself? How?”

Believing in yourself means that you do the following:

1. You believe in your ability to act. In other words, you know you are capable of doing what needs to be done to achieve your goal. For example, if your goal is to have your own business, then rather than talking about it for years, write a business plan, study business administration, and set a date to open it.

2. You believe in your ability to finish what you have started. There are many women who take the first step but cannot go further because they lose focus, are not organized, or are simply too scared to assume the role of a successful woman.

3. You believe in your ability to overcome obstacles. When you are facing conflict (however difficult it may seem), you believe that you will find the strength and means to resolve it.

4. You believe in your ability to find support. You admit that you don’t have to do it alone. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of intelligence and self-love.

5. You believe that you have something to share with the world. You are aware that when you practice your virtues, you enhance your own life and the lives of others.

The words, “believe in yourself”, that I heard from my teacher were the secret to winning the local Spelling Bee contest at the San Ignacio de Loyola school in San Juan, Puerto Rico. In addition, they became a good way to make friends, attain prosperity, find love, and even reach what seems impossible in this life.


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