Tips for choosing your bridesmaids and groomsmen

Take advantage of these little tips to choose the best damas and chambelanes for your party.

Here we provide you with some tips to make this important step easier and help you have the court of your dreams.

1 – Talk to your parents and determine the size of your court. This way, you'll know how many damas and chambelanes you should choose to accompany you in this important moment.

2 – It's your court. First of all, when choosing the damas and chambelanes, take into account that it is your party. It's your dream come true, and you should assert your point of view but without drama!

3 – Learn to control your emotions. Don't get defensive if your parents or any family member wants to impose someone in your court. Think carefully before opening your mouth, write down your ideas on paper, and then, with all the reasons that make you doubt, explain it in detail to your parents without creating scenes or dramas.

4 – Make a preliminary list. If you have several candidates, you can write down the names, the reason why they should be in your court of honor, and the priority they have over other candidates. You can even score them from one to ten to evaluate more accurately.

5 – When announcing your decision, prepare carefully. Invite the candidate for a snack, make the occasion suitable. Don't commit them if they don't want to. Prepare yourself mentally for a yes or a no. Don't be offended if some of your candidates reject the opportunity to be part of your court; don't pressure them and understand that these decisions to be part of a court or not depend not only on them but also on whether they can get permission from their parents, if they have enough money for the expenses involved in committing to going to the dance, rehearsals, etc. Even more private aspects like if their personality is reserved, if they don't like to dance, etc.

6 – Keep an open mind – When choosing your damas and chambelanes, it is important to rehearse with your court. Keep in mind that agreeing on all the details and maintaining cordiality in a group is not an easy task. Take into consideration the personalities and attend to and listen to everyone equally, without establishing preferences.

7 – Stay attentive. Identify problem areas sooner rather than later. Hopefully, it won't happen, but if someone can be the bad apple, take her out of the box cordially and discreetly as soon as you can!

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